Remember that episode of ‘Friends’ where Monica goes: Seven! She was trying to count all the ways we can experience those sweet sweet O’s! The good news: she brought many a viewers’ attention to the fact that there are multiple possible routes to pleasure, shining the light on some of our lesser-known erogenous zones. (What’s even better news is that there’s even more than seven!)
Still, for many sexually active couples, making out tends to follow a pretty standard sequence: Holding hands leads to kissing on the lips. Kissing gradually leads to hot and heavy hand movements. Often towards the breasts and the genitals. Maybe also some oral. And then it’s time for penetration. Sounds about right?
As common as this progression is, it can get a little predictable. Plus, while of course the lips, breasts, and genitals are obvious hotspots, our less obvious erogenous zones can be just as orgasmic.
Remember, your *whole body* is a literal treasure trove of pleasure waiting to be unearthed! So what say we go on a little treasure hunt? ;)
Over the course of this blog post, we’re going to help you map out those less obvious erogenous zones. We’ll dive deeper into both male and female lesser-known erogenous zones, and explore the techniques that can maximize your intimate pleasure. Get ready to broaden your horizons and upgrade your toolkit of pleasure exploration techniques.
WHAT ARE EROGENOUS ZONES?
Simply put, erogenous zones are areas of the body that are particularly sensitive to erotic touch, such that they can contribute significantly to your arousal with the right sexual stimulation techniques.
Tickling, licking, nibbling, or caressing these areas, indeed sometimes even simply breathing against the skin— all these acts, depending on the erogenous zone and your partner’s preferences, can lead to new and delightful sensations and heightened arousal. The traditional erogenous zones, like the lips, breasts/nipples, and genitals, are well-known. However, there are numerous other regions of the human body that can be just as receptive to stimulation, thereby greatly enhancing your pleasure.
Erogenous zones can vary from person to person. What might be intensely pleasurable for one individual could be less so for another. The key to sensual pleasure is to explore your own body and that of your partner, to discover what exactly drives you two wild. Everyone has their own unique preferences, and so only the two of you can be the real experts on your specific tastes for pleasure! Nevertheless, there are certain spicy ones that tend to work for most people that we’re going to highlight to get you started!
EXPLORING LESSER KNOWN EROGENOUS ZONES
We would like to believe that Robert Frost’s ‘The Road Not Taken’ holds a great amount of truth when it comes to pleasure exploration techniques as well. Think about it:
“... I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
Touché, Mr. Frost. Touché. Poetic segues aside, let’s get to know these intimate pleasure zones and how they can offer delightful surprises when stimulated appropriately.
1. The Neck
We’ll start off a little easy here. Even just breathing against your lover’s neck can elicit goosebumps. Whether it is the back of the neck that runs to our shoulder blades or the nape of the neck, kissing, licking, gentle sucking, and as we’ve established, even softly blowing against it can be incredibly tantalizing.
2. The Ears
Surprisingly sensual, this erogenous zone is a gateway to heightened arousal. Just whispering sweet things into your partner’s ears can send shivers down their spine. While most of us may have experienced that at some point in our sexual journey, you can also maximize the pleasures of this erogenous zone by softly nippling on the earlobe, or even exploring how it feels like to lick in and around the ear. Goes without saying that you must align your and your partner’s comfort.
3. Inner Thighs
Moving down the body, the inner thighs are often overlooked. This erogenous zone builds anticipation. It is a rather sensitive area that paves the way for oral pleasure. Light caresses, kisses, or teasing licks and nibbles along this area will likely leave them wanting more.
4. The Navel
There is a reason why we find belly button piercings to be such a turn on. The midriff, often left unexplored, can help you hone your sexual stimulation techniques. This sensitive little cavity in the human body has so much more to it than meets the eye. Lightly tracing circles or gentle strokes around it can be surprisingly arousing.
5. The Lower Back
"He passionately grabbed her from the waist and slowly brushed his fingers along the small of her back". Sounds like something straight out of some steamy erotica, right? We don't blame anyone for finding this erotic. The lower back has that kind of effect. It's often ignored but when one tickles, kisses, massages, or even just brushes their fingers over it, the sensations are often enough to make your toes curl.
6. The Scalp
The underdog of erogenous zones. This one is sure to unlock hidden pleasure. It is literally mind-blowing to have your scalp massaged lovingly, or to simply have your partner gently run their fingers through your hair. No wonder even just getting a shampoo, a champi or a head massage in the salon can make you feel like you have entered a different realm.
7. The Feet
The internet has made us all very aware of the foot fetish. Foot fetishes are often not just about how stimulation feels against the feet but also their visual and symbolic appeal. When it comes to maximizing erogenous zones, it can do wonders to pay attention to the feet, even if their more metaphorical qualities are lost on you, since they are packed with nerve endings. Everything from having them touched sensually, to kissing, licking and sucking the toes, can be both surprising and extremely delightful.
8. The Perineum
The small part of skin which is between the genitals and anus is delicate and sensitive. A gentle massage on the perineum, using small strokes can intensify pleasure during foreplay. While some may assume it is a female pleasure zone, it is an effective male erogenous zone too! The next time you’re giving head to your partner or receiving it, feel free to explore this hidden gem.
9. The Back Of The Knees
This area too is nerve-rich, and has sensitive skin. Using your tongue and/or fingers to tickle or trace from the back of the knees, slowly leading up to the inner thighs can increase sensual pleasure. Explore the area slowly with your partner to see how they like it.
10. The Wrists
Now that you know nerve-rich spots make the cut, this doesn’t come as much as a surprise. To stimulate this area, you can start with hand-holding, and then begin gently running your fingers up and down the entire inner forearm very slowly and sensually. It’s pretty titillating when you’re in public, and if you’re in your own space, you can kiss this area gently while making eye contact to escalate each other's arousal.
FINDING THE SENSUAL RHYTHM
We know so much about these lesser-known erogenous zones now. But the question remains, how to introduce them to our partner, or even explore each other’s erogenous zones? Here’s a few techniques in which you can harmonize pleasure.
1. Sensual Massage
Massages are always a good start for your intimate moments. It steadily brings up the pace, but it also opens up avenues to explore whichever erogenous zone you and your partner are comfortable with. It gradually builds anticipation and arousal. Use a high-quality massage oil like Leezu's Coconut Self Love Oil to create a sensuous experience that feels equal parts sexy and luxurious.
2. Temperature Play
Experiment with temperature play by using warm or cold objects. For a massage, you can choose to have a warmed up oil. Ensure that it doesn’t get too hot! If you or your partner(s) like it a little cool, you can also choose to play with ice cubes on the erogenous zone of your choice. Teasing your nerve-endings like that can be electrifying.
Always an important part of any sexual adventure - communication. Once you have discussed your and your partner’s desires, boundaries, fantasies and preferences, the entire experience becomes so much more pleasurable.
4. Including Toys
Toys can be incredibly arousing when used during partnered play. Leezu's offers delightful products designed to stimulate erogenous zones. Consider them for intensifying pleasure. You can use personal massagers like Pyaari or Hulchul against almost all the intimate pleasure zones. And for some like the perineum, you can even use an anal plug.
Since they’re lesser-known erogenous zones, as exciting as the journey is, it can also be a little awkward in the beginning. But that’s okay! It happens with things that are new to us. There’s a few things we must keep in mind so we can overcome these challenges.
- Everybody is different. What may be a very sensitive erogenous zone for one, may not be as exciting for others.
- Sensitivity varies. Some may prefer things more gentle while others may prefer things more intense. A good rule of thumb is to start as slow and gentle as possible and build things up gradually, based on how your partner responds. While one may want to explore an intimate pleasure zone, they may prefer a different sensation or pressure than you.
- Patience, kindness and communication are your best friends. Unless you create that feeling of safety and honesty together, sharing such intimate and vulnerable moments can be very challenging.
- Having healthy boundaries is a great tool. Having and respecting boundaries only goes to show that you prioritize each other’s comfort and safety. And that’s such a turn on!
There you go. Now you have so many different pleasure points to discuss with your partner. Exploring erogenous zones is such a wonderful way of getting in touch with our bodies. Sharing that experience and joy with your partner can be doubly beautiful. So go on, communicate with them and have a safe, comfortable and exhilarating adventure!