10 Ways to Have Multiple Orgasms When One Just Isn’t Enough

We've used this blog as a safe space to talk about pleasure, sexuality, and all the messy, wonderful stuff that comes with navigating desire in the real world, from getting over your ex to getting it on like you’ve never gotten it on before. 

And here's the thing: women don't need men (or any partner, really) to do anything for them, especially not to figure out their own pleasure. That's basically feminism 101. 

So, while we love a good partner, this guide is... about taking full ownership of your orgasms, your body, and your bliss. Because multiple orgasms shouldn't depend on someone else's effort or enthusiasm. They should depend on you knowing exactly what you want and going after it. Consider this your pleasure manifesto.

The truth will set you free: you don't need to have an orgasm to have incredible sex. And you definitely don't need multiple orgasms to call it a win. But if you're curious about what's possible when your body has more than one peak experience waiting? 

That's actually pretty special. And yes, it's totally within reach.

Are Multiple Orgasms Myth Or Magical?

Multiple orgasms don't mean you're convulsing nonstop for an hour straight (though hey, dream big). It's simply having successive orgasms during one sexual session—whether that's two back-to-back moments or a whole series of them.

The thing is, everyone's experience looks different. You might have a few smaller waves building to one intense finale (especially if you're edging—which we'll get to in a second). Or you could experience several full-throttle orgasms with barely a beat between them. Some bodies even squirt at various points, and that's cool too. There's no script here, just your body doing its thing.

Pro Tip: Think of your orgasms like a Spotify playlist, not a copy-paste repeat. Some tracks are bangers, some are Arijit Singh slow burns, and occasionally you get a remix you didn't expect. Variety is the whole point.

Wait, Isn't That Just Edging?

Not even close. In fact, they're basically the opposite.

Edging is about building sexual tension over and over, getting right to the edge of an orgasm, and then pulling back. You do this multiple times, delaying the final release until, boom - when you finally let yourself come, it's supposedly bigger and better. The payoff is one massive orgasm.

Multiple orgasms? You're actually crossing that finish line repeatedly. You're not denying yourself anything. You're celebrating the victory lap several times.

Pro Tip: Edging is the theatrical buildup to a final performance. Multiple orgasms are just... the whole concert. Know the difference before you book your tickets.

How Many Orgasms Are Actually Possible?

The answer: it depends. A lot of variables come into play, your anatomy, what you actually enjoy, and how well you know your own body. No magic number applies to everyone, and that's exactly how it should be. Don’t think of your body as a machine with preset settings. Go bigger. It's a musical instrument (that needs practice to master.)

Pro Tip: You're not trying to beat a high score in a video game. You're discovering your own personal pleasure blueprint. Spoiler: there's no leaderboard, just vibes.

Does having a Vagina Help?

Here's some genuinely good news: if you have a vagina, you've got a built-in advantage. Your refractory period, that's the downtime your body needs after an orgasm before it can respond to stimulation again, is typically much shorter than it is for penis-having folks (sorry, men). Sometimes there's basically no downtime at all (sorry again, men, you can’t have everything, but we’ve still got you).

Translation? If you can orgasm once, your body is essentially ready to go again. You're not waiting around for a reset button to finish its cycle.

Of course, not everyone finds orgasms easy to come by the first time, and that's also totally normal. If that's you, we'll cover how to build that foundation. But once you've got that first one figured out, an encore becomes much more feasible.

Pro Tip: Your clitoris isn't the shy type, it usually needs an invitation to the party. Don't leave it off the guest list.

1. Start with the Basics

Before you dream up a multiple-orgasm montage, make sure you can reliably get yourself off once. We know this sounds obvious, but plenty of people skip this step and wonder why round two never materializes.

If getting off is tough for you, you're not alone. The reasons are usually fixable: stress, body image stuff, medication side effects, or simply not knowing what turns you on. If it's becoming a real barrier, talking to a doctor or therapist can help identify what's in the way.

Pro Tip: Your brain is basically your most important erogenous zone. A turned-on mind leads to a turned-on body. So yeah, foreplay matters even when you're flying solo.

2. Mix Up Your Stimulation

Once you've had that first orgasm, it's playtime. Your clitoris might be sensitive enough that touching it feels like too much, so explore everywhere else instead. Try stimulating your breasts, your inner thighs, and your labia with anything that isn’t penetrative sex. Maybe your partner kisses every part of you except the places that are on fire right now.

Pro Tip: Sensation play is your friend here. Think blindfolds, light touches, temperature play. The goal is staying turned on without overwhelming any one spot."

3. Lube Is Your Secret Weapon

This isn't revolutionary advice, but it changes everything. Whether you're having oral sex, being penetrated, using toys, or any combination of the above, generous amounts of lube make everything feel better. It reduces friction that might otherwise interrupt your rhythm or make you too sensitive to continue.

Use water-based lube as your go-to. It won't degrade your toys, it won't mess with condoms, and it's basically the MVP of multiple-orgasm attempts.

Pro Tip: Apply it liberally and often. This isn't the time to be stingy.

4. Don't Force the Narrative

Here's where a lot of people derail themselves: they put so much pressure on having multiple orgasms that it becomes impossible. It's the watched-pot scenario. You're so focused on hitting a number that you're not actually present in your body.

Sometimes the best approach is to go in expecting nothing except a longer, more indulgent experience. Maybe it'll include multiple orgasms. Maybe it won't. But if you're chasing pleasure instead of chasing a goal, you're already winning.

Pro Tip: Let it happen rather than making it happen. The second you start forcing it, your nervous system pulls the plug. So go on, pretend you’re by the pool at a beachside resort. Your brain (and you) deserve it.

5. Strengthen Your Pelvic Muscles

Your pelvic floor muscles actually impact how orgasms feel and how much control you have over them. Kegel exercises can be genuinely helpful here.

To find the right muscles: next time you're peeing, try to stop the stream mid-flow. That's the muscle. Do sets of contractions throughout your day, squeeze for a few seconds, release. It might seem silly, but it works.

Pro Tip: A stronger pelvic floor gives you more sensation awareness and more control. That translates directly to better orgasms and easier multiples.

6. Use Your Breathing To Relax

Some people hold their breath during sex without realizing it. Your nervous system reads that as stress, and stress is the enemy of orgasms.

Slow, steady breathing keeps you grounded in your body. It quiets the mental chatter. It actually makes your nervous system more capable of achieving multiple orgasms because you're not in fight-or-flight mode.

Pro Tip: Try a simple 4-4-4 rhythm: breathe in for four counts, hold for four, exhale for four. It sounds simple because it is. And it works.

7. Bring Big Tech Into the Bedroom

Sex toys (a.k.a our entire arsenal), specifically clitoral vibrators, can be absolute game-changers if that's your thing. A lot of people find it easier to orgasm with a vibrator than with a partner's hand or their own. Some bodies just respond to that particular type of stimulation.

Pro Tip: Toys aren't just for solo play. If you're with a partner, toys give them a break (fingering cramps are real) and can help you discover new sensations.

8. Try Different Positions

There's no magical position that automatically delivers multiple orgasms, but switching things up often helps. Positions that give easy access to your clit or provide indirect clitoral stimulation are your best bet: straddling your partner, riding them, being penetrated while on your hands and knees, or literally just sitting on a dresser while your partner does the work.

If you're into deeper penetration and G-spot stimulation, try positions like lying on your side with your partner behind you, or doggy-style.

Pro Tip: Your hands still matter. During penetration, you can always add clitoral stimulation with your fingers or a toy. You're in charge of the whole operation.

9. Get Comfortable, Literally

You cannot come with abandon if your back is screaming or you're wondering if that weird popping sound in your knee is permanent damage. Real talk: you don't need to be super athletic or acrobatic to have amazing sex.

If you've been going for a while, take breaks. Adjust positions. Use pillows. Lie down. Your comfort directly impacts your ability to stay present and keep going.

Pro Tip: Check in with your body. A strategic pillow under your pelvis or taking a quick position change can be the difference between cramping out and continuing.

10. Do It Yourself

You know your body better than anyone else ever will. If you're with a partner, showing them what you like through masturbation can be incredibly hot and incredibly effective. You're giving them a masterclass while enjoying yourself. Plus, when it comes to multiples, you already know the rhythm and pressure that works for you.

Pro Tip: Combining solo pleasure with partnered play often works better than either alone. You get the best of both worlds.

Make the Journey the Destination

Seriously: stop chasing a number. If you're trying to have multiple orgasms and it's actually making sex less enjoyable, call it. Try again another time. This is supposed to be fun practice, not stressful work.

Some days your body's into it. Some days it's not. Some days you’ll fake it. Some days you make up for it. Both are okay. The sex is still good.

The Bottom Line

Women have spent centuries being told what they should want, how they should feel, and what their bodies should do. Multiple orgasms? That's just another way to take control of your own pleasure and decide what that actually means for you.

And that's the thing: maybe you want multiples. Maybe you want one really intense one. Maybe some days you wish to none at all, and that's just fine. Your pleasure, your rules.

Everyone, regardless of what's happening downstairs, deserves to spend time exploring what feels good without judgment or pressure or some arbitrary finish line. So experiment. Try different things. Listen to your body. And remember that the best sex you'll ever have is the kind where you're not performing for anyone else.

Or like our Mother Supreme Rihanna says, you do you. Always.